I'm revisiting this, and it's still SO good! I have written on my own blog about the myriad checks and balances I now have for saying no (https://www.commnatural.com/blog/tags/no-for-it). But, I hadn't thought of this ultra-simple approach, and how it can make saying no SO easy, because it's almost like *I'm* not saying no. It's past me doing it. (The time saver here, I'm thinking, is probably primarily the fact that I'm not laboring over how to say no, and thus not taking on the additional labor and energy sync of worrying about how someone's going to feel when I do say no. Pooja Lackshmin *nails* that last point in an interview with Tressie MacMillan Cottom, and it's been doing some heavy lifting for me since I heard them talk about it last fall! Here's a gift link to the transcript of that interview: https://www.nytimes.com/2023/09/19/podcasts/transcript-tressie-cottom-interviews-pooja-lakshmin.html?unlocked_article_code=1.Wk0.B2WF.KS2Rv90SF7Mv&smid=url-share)
I'm revisiting this, and it's still SO good! I have written on my own blog about the myriad checks and balances I now have for saying no (https://www.commnatural.com/blog/tags/no-for-it). But, I hadn't thought of this ultra-simple approach, and how it can make saying no SO easy, because it's almost like *I'm* not saying no. It's past me doing it. (The time saver here, I'm thinking, is probably primarily the fact that I'm not laboring over how to say no, and thus not taking on the additional labor and energy sync of worrying about how someone's going to feel when I do say no. Pooja Lackshmin *nails* that last point in an interview with Tressie MacMillan Cottom, and it's been doing some heavy lifting for me since I heard them talk about it last fall! Here's a gift link to the transcript of that interview: https://www.nytimes.com/2023/09/19/podcasts/transcript-tressie-cottom-interviews-pooja-lakshmin.html?unlocked_article_code=1.Wk0.B2WF.KS2Rv90SF7Mv&smid=url-share)